Long time ago, when I was still on elementary school, I had best friends. It was a beautiful childhood but now I can hardly remember their names. I just remember two kids and one of them is studying at Netherland right now.
When I reached junior high school, I can’t name them as my best friend anymore. Since we were separated by schools, by classes, by teachers, by homework … by almost anything! We couldn’t share times, play and laugh together as before, so…yes, each of us looked for our own best friends. And I found some new best friends in junior high school.
When I reached senior high school, I started to build best-friendship not only with boys, but also with girls! It was fun when I could share stories with them. Especially, the stories that I couldn’t share with my male best friends for they usually didn’t pay enough attention… At the end of senior high school, I realized that number of my female best friends were more than my male best friends!
The condition also occurred when I went to university. At campus, I had more female best friends than male best friends. Especially, no one of my senior high school best friends entered the same campus as me.
Don’t get it wrong. I also had male best friends at university. But once again, they are new.
See? I make new best friends at each level of schools. Some of them remain until now. Some of them disappear. So when I enter a new place or situation with no one I had known, it pushes me to make new best friends immediately.
I cannot argue! Best friends always bring love in life!
They are people who dare to sacrifice for us. They are people whom we can spontaneously ask for help. They are people whom we can share laugh and story with. They are people whom we can trust to keep our secrets remain unspoken. They are people who put their trust on our shoulder…
Now, I’m about to enter the life of working, the life of office, the life of bosses yelling at me every day. And I can’t stop wondering if I still be able to make new friends at this level of life.
Of course, they are people who we can trust. They are eligible and quality proven.
They are hard-workers. They can speak and deliver information well. They pay attention to every words that client say. But those are not the requirements I need to claim someone as my best friends! Not that way in professional matters.
I wonder if someday I still be able to share stories about my family with one of the people in my office. I wonder if someday I still be able to spit out my secrets with them. I wonder if someday I still be able to say dirty words freely in front of them, and laugh after. And I can’t stop wondering…
I wonder if I’m good enough to be a best friend of someone when I enter the professional life. I’m pessimist.
Right now, I can’t stop worrying by the thought that the university life is my last chance to make (or collect) best friends, either male or female.
To me, best friends are important! I consider them just like horcrux in Harry Potter story. They keep me alive because each of them holds some parts of my soul! Each of them holds some parts of my life!
Some of you may think that is so exaggerating. But to me, it would be a worthy life if someday I could open a conversation with my grandchildren with, “Hey, kids. I have a story. I once had a best friend named …” It will encourage them to make friends.
And when my best friends all over the place do the same thing I do, it means they are keeping me alive forever. Isn’t that wonderful?
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